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A family struggling, traveling and surviving in the Great Recession

Apartment in California with moving pods.

- Dan Davis

Dan packs us up in California.

- Dan Davis

California apartment just before leaving.

- Dan Davis

Map of the road.

- Dan Davis

Going west. Caitlin with Hopper.

- Dan Davis

Road weary. The baby and Hopper in motel.

- Dan Davis

The road my mom lives on.

- Dan Davis

Home in Maine with Hopper.

- Dan Davis

Home in Maine, summer 2010.

- Harlan Bosmajian

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TEXT OF INTERVIEW

Kai Ryssdal: Back in the fall of 2007, Caitlin Shetterly and her husband Dan Davis had it pretty good. Newly married, doing work they loved. She was a writer and a freelance radio reporter. He was a photographer.

When the economy started to go south in their hometown of Portland, Maine, they decided to do something they'd always wanted to do -- pull up stakes and move west to L.A. And for a while things were pretty good. Until the financial crisis and the Great Recession, and lost jobs and no money.

Caitlin Shetterly writes about their story and their travels in a new memoir based on audio diaries she did for Weekend Edition on NPR. It's called "Made for You and Me: Going West, Going Broke, Finding Home." Good to talk to you both.

Caitlin Shetterly and Dan Davis: Thank you, great to talk to you.

Ryssdal: The place I want to start is, pardon me, that moment in your bathroom in the apartment in Santa Monica, where you found out you were pregnant. And you look at Dan, and you describe the shock and fear that crosses his face, and in what might be my favorite line in this whole book, there was also a little hint of exultation at the corner of his mouth.

Shetterly: That's my guy.

Ryssdal: There you go. But little did you know what was coming.

Shetterly: I had no idea, of course, that I would get very sick with this pregnancy and have something called hyperemesis gravidarum where I would basically puke for nine months. And nor did I know that the recession would hit our lives as hard as it did.

Ryssdal: So there you are, first week of January 2009, you have a brand new baby, but your husband's jobs have all been canceled; he's getting no contracting, no freelancing. The whole country is literally thinking that this is it, because we've had the crash in the fall of the previous year. What was going through your mind?

Shetterly: What was going through my mind? I mean, I was angry. I think many of us, many people in my generation anyway -- I can't speak for say, my grandparents' generation who went through the Depression -- but we've grown up believing that if we work hard and strive for our dreams, they will come true. And I believed that.

Ryssdal: Past tense, you're speaking in the past tense. "I believed that."

Shetterly: Yeah, I did believe that. Now I don't believe it anymore. I don't know that just hard work makes it. I don't know, I think a lot of luck makes it.

Ryssdal: Was there a moment, Dan, when you knew? And I think there was a moment where you said, 'This isn't working Caitlin, we gotta hit it, we gotta go.'

Davis: There was one moment when I was in a strip mall in Culver City, looking for work. And I had parked my car at the end of the parking lot, and started to make my way down the row of department stores. And by the time I got to the end, something in me just couldn't turn around and walk the same direction. I just felt so ashamed that I had a college education and I felt like all of my hard work didn't mean anything anymore. I walked around to the backside of all the buildings and walked back through the back parking lots so nobody could see me. I just felt too beaten down and too embarrassed to turn around and walk past the same people whom moments before I was just asking for a job.

Ryssdal: There is, Caitlin, besides you and your husband and your dog and your cat and eventually your son, there is another character in this book, and that's this country.

Shetterly: I'm so glad you said that. I mean, I wrote about driving across this country and how beautiful it was, both ways. But also, America reached out to us, and that was what was so moving, is that after that first piece aired on NPR, there were the people who were not nice and who said things that were very hurtful to Dan. I mean, 'What a wimp,' 'You never should have married such a wimp loser guy,' or something. But people across this country, good people, reached out to us. They offered us homes. Somebody did offer us land. They offered us plane tickets. They offered us their homes to sleep in for the night. They offered us food. Americans are good.

Ryssdal: Dan, the quote in the beginning of this book before the prologue is from John Steinbeck, it's from "The Grapes of Wrath." And this is your wife who's quoting this, right? And you know what's coming here, it says: "Women and children knew deep in themselves that no misfortune was too great to bear if their men were whole." No pressure, right?

Shetterly: I love that you just read that, Kai. That means so much to me, because that's the story of the book.

Ryssdal: You, Caitlin, characterized Dan as the strong, silent type. The guy who, you say the same thing about him that my wife says about me, which is that he has a hard time not working. That if there's a problem, he has to do something, because he can't just sit there. But Dan, you talk, or Caitlin talks, about how this trip back East, when you guys eventually knew it was time to leave California and head back East, you talk about being broken.

Davis: Yeah, it's true. I think what I was experiencing on the way back, one of the things that I knew how to do when our lives was collapsing was to just put my head down. We had a plan, and our plan was to leave, and I had to execute that plan. So I just put my head down, and packed. And got us ready to move. As we got closer to finally stopping, our journey being over, I think it all hit me. I mean, one of the last real stress for me was coming across the country on tires that were the original tires that we had on our car. And we didn't have the money to put new tires on before we left. And the entire trip across the country, that was always in my mind, like 'our tires aren't good. I have to drive, slowly, I have to keep both hands on the steering wheel.' And I knew that I couldn't share that information with Caitlin, because someone needed to have some corner available for our son. So I told her about the tires when we got back to Maine, I said

Shetterly: The day we got back. We pulled into the driveway at my mother's, Dan said, "I can't believe we made it on these tires." And I said, "What do you mean?" And he said, I mean, we were in Tennessee in a snowstorm -- anyway, we made it.

Ryssdal: Yeah, you did. And it's worth pointing out that two years later on, your son's doing fine, Dan's in graduate school, and you sold a book. The book, by Caitlin Shetterly is called "Made for You and Me: Going West, Going Broke, Finding Home." There's an excerpt and a whole bunch more on our book blog. Thanks you guys.

Shetterly and Davis: Thank you so much.


Follow Caitlin and Dan's journey as told to NPR: A Man, Woman, Baby And An Empty Bank Account; A Turn In Fortunes; The Long And Winding Road Home; From Mom's Home To Their Own.

About the author

Kai Ryssdal is the host and senior editor of Marketplace, public radio’s program on business and the economy. Follow Kai on Twitter @kairyssdal.

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Ken Hubbell - Mar 11, 2011

As one who's family managed to survive the first decade of the new century in spite of unfair tax laws, near death experiences and a poor economy that did not have all the current bailout mechanisms, I found that writing (not "whining") about it gave me the opportunity to share what we learned with others who are now facing similar issues. It has taken 10+ years for us to just start to recover. I hope others fair better. We are.making our book available free for this month at http://bit.ly/goingaroundmyelbow please share with someone who needs it. print copies are available at cost from Lulu.com.

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Aby Normal - Mar 11, 2011

What a wonderful interview!!
I love it when Marketplace touches the very nerve of our culture with the struggles, triumphs and hopes of real people like Dan and Caitlin... my favorite part was when Kai quoted: "Women and children knew deep in themselves that no misfortune was too great to bear if their men were whole."... even when that quote is from a book written over 70 years ago that is still true today... the difference now is that we (women) have realized how much we can contribute to this economy and that is not just of being expectators but contributors to the well-being of our society and for a better future of our children.
How wonderful to see a man who can lead with a clear mind but also with the passion in his heart to provide and protect his family.

Thank you Marketplace!

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JENNIFER CHARLES - Mar 11, 2011

It was so interesting to hear this interview on the radio yesterday. My husband and I attempted a similar life change at the end of 2008, except that we left LA and moved to a smaller city (Louisville, KY) rather than moving from a small city to LA. We moved after the stock market had crashed to a city where we knew no one, and were understandably nervous. 6 months later and we both had full-time work in our fields (architect and tennis coach). It took hard work and good backgrounds (education/work experience) but I really owe it to the small-town effort to help us out even though we were strangers. It wasn't about hand-outs, it was about people being engaged in other people's lives.

My husband and I created a zine documenting the cross-country journey that we took (as the economy was crashing) to find our new home. It's called "4 Months 40 States and You Picked Where?" More information at:
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=796761623#!/note.php?note_id=1422...

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Ann Wright - Mar 11, 2011

I'm grateful to NPR for sharing this story. People are worried, I'm worried, about the state of our economy. Just when we think things are on the up tick, something else happens. Last night Marketplace also had a segment about the interest rates of treasury bonds decreasing, the interviewee saying that indicates the economy is doing better. Really? Gas prices have soared in weeks and some have said may hit $5 in the U.S. this year - not because of the war in Libya and the price of oil per se (it has an impact, but not the skyrocketing prices of the last few weeks) but because speculators are using the war in Libya to drive the price up. Nobody is reporting THAT. Food prices are projected to rise 30% in the next 3 years. These are indicators that the economy is improving? How will this be affordable for anyone but the richest? Any one of us could be the next Dan and Caitlin.

I live in a community with a nuclear power plant that's scheduled to shut down next year. Some want it to because of its age and environmental impact; others don't because it's one of the few companies in our area that has a significant number of high-paying jobs, and those $ recirculate in our community. The company also gives significantly to local non-profits. If/when this plant closes, the sucking sound as those dollars leave town is going to hurt the ears, with nothing to fill the gap the loss of jobs, tax income, and philanthropy will create. Many of us who now enjoy a decent quality of life now will find ourselves in Dan's and Caitlin's shoes.

This story inspires me that even through hardship, one can come out on the other end just fine.

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Ernie Roberts - Mar 11, 2011

It should of said, food bank.

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Ernie Roberts - Mar 11, 2011

I think it is very inlighting that the comment was posted by your listener,Denise Foster, was heard a program about personal finance.

If the book had not been writen, the three of them may have been the next expense/recipient for your bood bank.

I can't wait to recive my copy.

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Bryan Wing - Mar 10, 2011

Kai's interview today with Kaitlen and Dan brought a tear to my eye. I met with our CPA today to start our 2010 tax return and she commented how lucky I was to have only been out of work for only 3 plus months in 2009. I feel lucky, but I'm also angry. Angry at the banks for the mess they got us into. And to top it off, [get a load of this] Chase took over 10% in transaction fees when I gave stock shares to a charity last year. Banks are even stealing from charities now. I can't believe my tax dollars have bailed out these crooks! and they keep stealing! I want to see much more prosecution against these bankers than the government put against the Enron crooks.

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Matthew Smith - Mar 10, 2011
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Michel Joncas - Mar 10, 2011

I'm glad to know the author and her family are home safe and sound. Perhaps she can continue to share her life journey by writing about how courage, in combination with the law of unintended consequences creates a life with "enough" for everyone.

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Ken Hubbell - Mar 10, 2011

I empathize with their experience. During the first great recession in 2001 our adventure began. From bubble burst to government bailout, my book "Going Around My Elbow" recounts the challenges of today's economic impact on the family. Experience one man's journey discovering what it means to be a 21st Century husband and father. And, come to understand the power of unconditional love as a family survives life's obstacles by finding creative ways to maintain their ties and put bread on the table while living 750 miles apart. It is available through
Barnes and Noble.com. http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Going-Around-My-Elbow/Ken-Hubbell/e/294...

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